'Next time you win the lottery, call your *current* girlfriend first': Lottery winner asks 'AITA?' for calling his ex-wife upon winning millions

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Remy Millisky • Writer and Editor
Feb 13, 2023 11:00 AM EST

If you won millions in the lotto, what's the first thing you would do? For many of us, our first instinct would be to call our immediate family and best friends to share the news! But this guy called his ex-wife right after his parents — and his actual current GF is steaming mad about it! 

Not only did this guy called his ex first, he offered her some of the money. While some people in the comments immediately began to question his motives, he makes it pretty clear: he had kids with his ex. He wants to improve their lives, and maybe even send them on a vacation around the world. He claims to love his ex, while not being in love with her, which is a distinction that not everyone in the comments understood. I don't think this guy is an a-hole, but he should be careful with that information about winning the lotto! And maybe get a new GF if this current one can't understand why you'd want to have an agreeable relationship with your kids' mom. 

Next up, this crabby oldster threw an absolute hissy fit in a restaurant, but diners were sympathetic to the waiter, leaving the diner really embarrassed. 

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    Gesture - 100 My Site Ma 19 BI 08299 'When I told my GF, she was livid. Screaming that I'm disrespecting her, accusing me of still being in love with my ex wife'
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    Organism - r/AmItheA Posted by u/binkies123 3 17 372 AITA for giving my ex wife a large amount of money I won despite the anger of my gf?
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    Font - I recently won a 'fut you' amount of money. I won't say exactly how much but it's in the millions. It makes me feel funny even typing It's enough to change the life of myself and my family.
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    Font - My ex wife is the mother of my 2 kids. She is an amazing woman and good to the bone. We divorced 6 years ago because I had an affair with my current partner. I was in a low place in my life and I fed up. She was in incredible pain but - like a f king saint- she allowed me to still see our kids who mean the world to me, allowed our divorce to be as pain free as possible despite the fact that I know she was hurting. She still is close with my parents. She is respectful to me although she re
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    Font - She was actually the first person I phoned after my mom and pops after I found out I won the lottery. She was pleased for me, joked that I could take the kids on a world round trip, and that was that. Nothing else. as soon as I won, I knew I wanted to give her a significant amount. I still love her. She's the mother of my babies and I feel like this is some small tiny way I can show her that I'm not a complete f up. She deserves to know that I care despite my mistakes. She also works a st
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    Font - Long story short, when I told my gf, she was my livid. Screaming that I'm disrespecting her, accusing me of still being in love with my ex wife- I'm not in love with her. We've both grown apart, but of course I still love her for being an excellent co parenting partner and mother to my kids. My gf is threatening to break up with me, and tbh I'm feeling incredibly relieved over the threats. I don't plan on changing my plans, but AITA?
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    Font - Safahri Partaipant [2] NTA if you intended for the money to help out her and your kids. If you only intended to give it to her because you 'love' your ex wife then you're a bit of an a (ESH) for making your current girlfriend a 'plan b'. The way she reacted was a little over the top, but to be expected since you are giving money to another woman (that you used to be married to). Otherwise, you do have kids to provide for and it's none of her business because you're not married and you don
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    Font - binkies123 OP. She did know I was married to my wife yes. I agree that her claiming disrespect is bullsh because we both engaged in very disrespectful behaviour towards my ex wife. The money is being given with the full intention that ex wife did me right over these years and I want to do right by her too. She's the mother of my kids and she also deserves a good life. I also want the kids to grow up in 2 wonderful environments instead of dad having a 'nice' place and moms place being comp
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    Font - jooes If you only intended to give it to her because you 'love' your ex wife then you're a bit of an (ESH) for making your current girlfriend a 'plan b' a That's why I'm leaning "YTA" here. He's an as hiding in NTA clothing. He wins the lottery and the very first thing he does? He calls his ex-wife.
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    Font - The guy says he's not in love with her, but I think he's full of S Current-girlfriend is obviously a backup plan, he's only with her because he fu ed up relationship #1 and I'm confident that he would absolutely 100% drop her the second that his ex-wife showed interest. He even says he's happy that his GF is threatening to break up with him, the guy clearly doesn't want to be with her, he wants to be with his ex. He's probably only here because he wants to feel justified with breaking up
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    Font - So I'd be a bit upset too if I was her. That's not really the kind of relationship that I'd want to be in. I wouldn't want to live in someone elses shadow, I don't want to just be the every night while you cry deep down about the one you really love. F k that. Next time you win the lottery, call your current girlfriend first. It's not that complicated.
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    Font - Ava17961 Nothing worse than an insecure partner. I can see it all going downhill from there or she stays bc of the money.
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    Font - queenofthera Supreme Court Just- [103] ΝΤΑ ...but what I will say, is that I think your current GF is in an unenviable position. While she's wrong to resent you giving money to the mother of your children, the way you talk does sound like you're still in love with your ex-wife, and that you consider cheating with your current GF as the biggest mistake of your life. Just by the way you write, it sounds like you (rightly) accept that what you did was wrong, but also that you believe you wou
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    Font - You_just_never_know Aficionado [12] A NTA, at the end of the day, you still shared a lot with your ex-wife and that probably intimidates your girlfriend. In my eyes, the girlfriend is being extremely childish in this situation, and the fact that you're feeling relieved about her threats says a lot about you too. Perhaps it's time to re-evaluate your relationship and just focus on giving your kids the best lives possible now you've got the means to do so. 7.7k Share binkies123 OP I think y
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    Font - cadusn A > Enthusiast [6] NTA. Your money, your decision. I suspect the anger from your gf is probably just insecurity given the nature of how your relationship with her started.
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    Font - [deleted] She should be insecure. They've been "dating" for more than six years, yet she is still just the affair partner. I think op is doing good for supporting the mother of his children, but I think his girlfriend is rightfully worried they will never be serious. NAH.
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    Font - popletti Parta ipant [1] NTA. I raised an eyebrow when you said you still 'love' your ex-wife, but your explanation of your feelings made complete sense to me. Clearly it's not anything romantic. Is it so strange that you want to give money to the mother of your children, who, from the sound of it, is taking care of them most of the time?
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    Font - I think your gf is being irrational and entitled, especially considering that it's your money, not yours and hers. You can do whatever you want with it. Your ex-wife sounds like a saint for how well she dealt with the fallout of your marriage, she deserves the money. Congratulations on the win, OP. eta: some unwarranted advice, but if you aren't already reconsidering your relationship with your gf, you probably should. Especially if she cheated with you knowingly. Just saying.
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    Font - j_tokee Is it so strange that you want to give money to the mother of your children, who, from the sound of it, is taking care of them most of the time? This. The well being of your childs parent affects them too. If you wish to see them fail, you're only harming your kids. By helping out his ex he's directly benefiting his children.
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    Human body - There's a difference between loving someone and being in love with someone.
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    Font - hoodytwin I don't believe you're the as I've imagined the same thing if i had a windfall. I don't love my ex-wife by any means, but she is the mother of my children. I'm thankful that we're amicable. I would be careful pursuing anything with the current gf. Like they say, if they cheat with you, they'll cheat on you. Also, if she can't understand why you'd want to give your ex money, that's her problem to deal with. I would hope she wouldn't be so insecure.
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    Font - If I've picked up on this, (and assuming I'm not a million miles off the mark), it's reasonable to assume your gf has too, which may explain her reaction. You were wrong to string her along for this long, especially as you now seem to feel happy she's talking about ending it. You should have broken up with her a long time ago, it seems.
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    Font - binkies123 OP. I see those points. I don't agree with most of them but I respect that. My girlfriend has actually been the one to hold the relationship at an arms length for this long. I was very happy to jump straight into playing house with her after my divorce, (which I'm very glad never happened) however it isn't me that's been stringing anybody along. Agree that perhaps our relationship should have fizzled out some time ago however.
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    Font - [deleted] Unenviable? Her fing boyfriend just won the lottery, literally the biggest problem she has is her boyfriend having so much money that he can spread too much, if that's unenviable idk what most relationships are called
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    Font - Finn Finite Certified Proctologist [20] NAH. I would actually recommend immediately getting a financial advisor and/or a lawyer, because people do an awful lot of dumb sh the year after winning the lottery. Your girlfriend saw dollar signs and is mad at you for taking them away from "the two of you", and family will be worse. Your generosity toward your kids does you cre... I mean actually you barely mentioned your kids and this post is a glowing gushing love song to your ex wife so I mea
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    Font - binkies123 OP. My kids are my life and I hope my post reflects that their mother having enough money to do right by them shows that.
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